Refined Casual: Getting your grown man on, outside the office

November 28, 2011 · 77 comments

in Apparel, Giveaways, How To, Tips

Hey gents,

I’m about to drop some knowledge on you in a minute. But first, I want to make sure I have your attention. Make sure to read through this whole article because at the very end, I’ll have a special surprise for you, but you’ll have to read through to find out!

For the uninitiated (read: those who aren’t avid readers of this site) “casual” typically equates to sloppy. Most of the time this isn’t intentional; I highly doubt anyone wakes up in the morning thinking “I’m gonna look my absolute shittiest today.”

The problem is, lots of guys don’t know what to put on when they’re not wearing their work uniforms, whether that be a suit and tie, or an orange vest and a hardhat.

Enter the idea of Refined Casual. There is no one type of casual outfit, just like there is no “going out” shirt, despite what most guys think.

I’m encouraging you to blur the lines a bit between dressy and casual. When you have a more refined casual look, you’ll never find yourself completely under or overdressed in any situation you find yourself in.

What does this mean exactly?

Step away from t-shirts on your off days, and throw on a button-up sport shirt. Try a fitted crewneck sweater instead of your typical hoodie. Put on a great pair of chinos instead of your ripped, faded denim.

What better way to illustrate this point than with visuals? Below are three outfits I put together. Study them not as absolutes you should memorize and mimic exactly, but rather use them as references on how to pair color and texture together, and more importantly, how to willingly stray away from your usual casual choices.

Each of these examples feature Bonobos’ Game Day Chinos, some of my favorite out right now. They have great colors available and the fit is perfect. Definitely worth checking out if you’re in the market for new pants.

Take a look at the Game Day Chinos here (opens in a new tab).

Game Day Chinos in red, Resin tailored shirt from Gap, Half-zip lambswool sweater from J.Crew, Navy Bayswater pea coat from J.Crew, Earthkeeper boots from Timberland, Golden / Brass leather belt from Tanner Goods

Game Day Chinos in Petrol Blue from Bonobos, White all-rounder oxford shirt from Bonobos, Millerain waxed cotton field jacket from J.Crew, Red Oak leather desert boot from Clarks, Heritage tan / black leather belt from Tanner Goods

Game Day Chinos in Surplus from Bonobos, Brushed flannel work shirt from Lands’ End Canvas, Waxed cotton field jacket from Lands’ End Canvas, Suede chukka boot from Quoddy, Mahogany / nickel leather belt from Tanner Goods

Lucky for you, since you’re an EG reader, you can get 20% off with the code “effortlessgent”, just use it at checkout. Not bad, right? Check out the chinos here.

What did you score today?

I’m sure you saw my last article about Bonobos’ ridiculous Cyber Monday sale. Well, that’s going on right now, so make sure you check that out and pick up some great stuff at a crazy amazing discount. In case you’re wondering, nope, the effortlessgent code won’t work on Cyber Monday purchases, but you won’t even need it anyway. The deals will be that awesome.

You’re not too late, go check out the cyber monday specials on bonobos.com now.

Aaaand now, the surprise!

  This contest has already ended. Thanks for entering!   

The good folks at Bonobos knew I loved their Game Day Chinos, and when I told them I was going to feature them in an article, they were gracious enough to throw in a pair for free to one lucky winner.

Nice!

So here’s what you gotta do to win a pair of Game Day Chinos. In the comments below, let’s hear your BEST pick-up line, ever. Make it good! And make it count.

Pretty simple, right? Last day to enter is this Friday, December 2, at 11:59pm Pacific.

I’m looking forward to hearing your best pick-up lines… this should be interesting.

Oh, and if you have any thoughts / questions on “refined casual”, leave em in the comments as well.

Good luck!

About

Barron is the founder and editor of Effortless Gent, a site dedicated to helping dudes figure out what looks best on them. He also co-founded Fifth&Brannan, a menswear label based in San Francisco. Connect with him on Twitter and Facebook.

  • http://www.privategrave.com/ Private Grave

    Nice Shoes.

    This works for me semi-frequently…

  • Chris E.

    My best pick-up line:
    “Hi, I’m Chris. What’s your name?”

  • JRok

    I lick “p*##y like a champ. 

  • Jake

    “Really, she has a boyfriend? Well, what are you doing tonight?”

  • Marcus Bearden

    Hey – I’m sure you hear this all the time and I know it may sound really cheesy, but you’re absolutely gorgeous!  My name is Marcus by the way, what’s yours?  *holds out hand for a handshake*

  • Dan Lish

    “[Compliment a small detail of what she is wearing]. I’m Dan, by the way.  What’s your name?”

  • Paul

    Your dress is amazing, but you, you’re really doing it a favor.

  • Dan

    Hi!

  • JN

    That’s a nice shirt, can I talk you out of it. 

  • Adam Drake

    “Baby, you can call me ‘Milk,’ cause I’ll do your body good.”

    Definitely worth a laugh or two

  • Anonymous

    Are you a magnet? Because I’m attracted to you

  • Drewspeir

    Hello, my name is Drew.  What’s your name?

  • Britton

    Hold out my hand. “Can you hold this while I go on a walk?”

  • http://www.thedapperscholar.wordpress.com Rogin

    What has 142 teeth and holds back the Incredible Hulk? My zipper.

  • Adamrabo

    How much does a Polar Bear weigh?…Enough to break the ice, Hi I’m Adam.

  • http://www.facebook.com/ssellek1 Sean Sellek

    What does it feel like to know you’re the prettiest girl in the room?

  • http://profiles.google.com/jswadley Jason Swadley

    *Drops packet on the floor with SUGAR in big letters.*

    “Excuse me, it looks like you dropped your nametag.”

  • Marvin Gilmore

    Hey girl did it hurt? (And when she looks awkwardly and says “what”) reply with a “When you fell from heaven” lol.

  • JD

    Are you from Tennessee? Because I’d like to make out with you.

  • Chris

    Pretending I don’t notice you is a broken pencil… Pointless. Haha

  • Mbc

    I actually heard this one at a bar;
    Girl; “Hi, my names Nina”
    Guy; “Nina?”
    Girl; “yeah”
    Guy; “You look more like a Ten-a to me.”

  • woodlandsrealtor

    You must be the sun, because you give light to everything around you.

  • Ryan Hunt

    “Oh you’re not one of those women that are all looks but no smarts are you?”

    Say it in a non arrogent, kind of passe tone without giving her your full attention or looking like you really want to talk to her. Why it works:
    1) Its something different, you need to stand out or you are just another generic guy hitting on her.
    2) You have implied that she is pretty, but not said it out right. A subtle compilment.
    3) No one likes to thing they are stupid, so she will probably try to prove she isn’t and at the very least engage you for the next 20 seconds.
    4) You said woman and not girl. Girl it patronizing and misogynistic.
    5) She is probably used to guys fawning over her, being a little desparate or nervous. You are different, shes on your radar but you don’t really care either way with will infuriate her even if only at a subconcious level.
    6) Its awesome. The end.

  • Art Robinson

    Have you ever made out with a Bonobos ad?

  • Rich

    How do you like your eggs in the morning? Fertilized? 

  • Steve

    Can I buy you a drink so I look better?

  • Arden Sedlins

    Are you a fan of ‘The Muppets’? Because, you’re pulling my strings.

  • Connor

    Can I have your picture so I can show Santa what I want for Christmas

  • ThomYorke

    I’ll make you dinner if you make me breakfast

  • Harrisonj321

    If you were a booger, I’d pick you first.

  • lby

    Excuse me? Can you double check this partial fraction decomposition? I want to be completely certain before I launch my ship for Mars.

  • BeyArea

    Let’s get the fuck out of here, it’s like a congregation. Every drink drips condensation. Let’s put these last drinks back and hit the first red light. The bay is like a pane of glass, let’s break it. Drink to dull the cold, take off all our clothes, let’s go.

  • AK5

    Mine is like a sewing needle; it may be small but it goes really fast.

  • Dan

    I hope I get extra credit for actually using this and making two women laugh:

    “Are your parents beavers? Because…DAMMMMMMMM.”

  • Garb

    how you doin…

  • FreshestPrince

    Are your feet tired? 
    No, why?
    Because you’ve been running through my dreams all night!
    __________________________________________________________________

    If I could rearrange the alphabet I would put U next to I. 
    __________________________________________________________________

    Can I get some fries with that shake? 
    __________________________________________________________________

    and in honor of Movember …

    Would you like a free Mustache ride? 

  • scottkimberly

    “Nice shoes.  Wanna F***?”

  • aw

    Your name must be Daisy, because I’m going to plant you right here. (points at lap)

  • Richard Wilkins

    extends hand..
    she takes it….
    I’m sorry but my conscious just would not let me, let you slip by

  • David

    Did you fart?  Cuz you just blew me away.

  • Jason Wilkins

    I can’t think of anyone else I’d rather survive the Zombie Holocaust with.

  • http://twitter.com/jprug Jason Prugar

    My best pickup line? My name. I saw a girl I used to work with in HS at a bar. She walked by and I said “Hey Missy, it’s Jason Prugar!” we got to talking, then kissing and 2 years after that we were married.

  • Rungen

    Hey.

  • Richard

    Say baby real talk you couldn’t fcuk wit me if you had a million nemphos with you.

    For those sassy females lol

  • JFT

    “I’d ask for your phone number, but I’ll just get it off your answering machine in the morning.”

  • Michael R.

    If I received a nickel for each time I saw someone as beautiful as you, I’d have five cents.

  • http://www.facebook.com/pretamero Pablo Retamero

    “Hola, soy Pablo. No hablo ingles, pero tu eres muy bonita.” – Follow it up with open smile and direct look into her eyes.

  • will w.

    Girl your eyes are amaaazing, do you have a little bit of [insert race] in you? [answers no] Do you want some? [sexy glare] -____________-

  • gordon

    “HI”

  • TG

    No line necessary. With game day chinos on, the ladies will be trying to pick you up. 

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