(Editor’s note: This is a guest article by Robert of Restart Your Style. Robert is offering to get you started on your new style by personally helping you over your current sticking points. Visit his site to get his advice completely free.)
Being a rookie is brutal.
You want to fix your style, but you don’t know where to start. Let’s face it; you don’t even know what needs fixing.
So you go online for help, but you discover an overwhelming amount of information, and it’s all scattered.
It’s like someone ripped out the pages from a style encyclopedia and scattered them all over the floor.
So you pick a random page and try to learn something – because that’s better than doing nothing, right? But deep down you know it’s a random act of desperation because you still don’t really have a clue if it’s right for you.
Hell, you might even end up changing the one thing you were actually doing right!
But it’s not your fault. You’re a rookie and you’ll always make rookie mistakes.
Unless of course, someone who’s already made them all tells you exactly what they are. Then you could just skip them altogether…
Mistake 1: Assuming You Already Know Something
When we first set out, as rookies, to learn how to dress better, we work under the impression we already know how to dress. We just need to learn how to dress better.
But knowing how to put on clothes is not the same as knowing how to dress.
If you want to learn how to dress better, you must stop thinking you already know something. You must forget everything you think you know.
Because what you think you know might be exactly what’s ruining your look.
And when you think you already know how to do something, you´ll skip over information telling you how to do it right.
I skipped over articles on fit for a long time, and my mind exploded when I finally discovered how little I knew about it. Fit was such a basic concept, I thought I had it down. When I discovered I didn’t, I felt like a moron for getting it wrong for so long.
The more basic you think advice is, the more you need to read it. The basics are the most important to learn.
So if you think you have something down, just tell yourself you could use a refresher.
You might surprise yourself.
Mistake 2: Confusing Dressing Up With Dressing Well
Many rookies think dressing better is about wearing dressier clothes. They think they put on a suit, and SHAZAM! Their style issues are fixed.
Doesn’t even have to be a suit. Other guys think blazers have the same magic powers, or hell, others think a simple shirt does the trick.
But wearing a shirt instead of a tee, or a suit instead of casual wear, ain’t no style fix, dude.
You’ll just make the same mistakes as before, just on dressier clothes.
And poorly-worn suits look just as sloppy as poorly-worn T-shirts and jeans.
Because style isn’t about the clothes you wear. Style’s about how you wear the clothes.
Mistake 3: Taking Your Lead From the Fashion World
When you first decide you want to dress better, you naturally look toward the fashion world. They’re all about clothes, after all.
But the fashion world sucks.
The fashion world isn’t about teaching you how to dress well. The fashion world’s about telling you what to wear this season. The fashion world is about selling.
So when you look to the fashion world for help, it’s telling you “buy this, buy that, buy this, buy that”.
And you think that if you just buy what they say, your style will improve. But it won’t.
You’re wearing trendier clothes, but they still don’t fit, and you’re still getting the colors all wrong, and it all still looks like a giant mess, because you never learned how to wear the clothes.
You’re wearing trendier clothes, but you still look sloppy.
You have to ignore seasonal trends, and focus on learning the basics of dressing well.
Because when you know how to dress well, you won’t need to rely on the fashion world. You won’t need to rely on anyone.
You’ll just know what works for you and what doesn’t.
Mistake 4: Settling for Close Enough
When a rookie’s eyes are finally opened to how clothes should fit, rookies often discover how troublesome finding proper-fitting clothes off the rack is.
So they settle for a fit that’s close enough.
But close enough isn’t good enough, dudes.
You want clothes that fit like they were made for you — like their creator had you in mind when he made them.
If you haven’t already, you want to get a grip on this pronto. Getting a grip on fit is priority one.
Without the right fit, your clothes won’t look good on you.
Without the right fit, all your efforts to fine-tune your look will be futile.
You don’t want close enough. You want as close to perfect as possible.
Mistake 5: Treating the Tailor as a Last Resort
Most rookies are reluctant to get their clothes tailored.
They’ll spend hours upon hours trying to find perfect-fitting clothes off the rack, and end up feeling frustrated when they can’t find any.
And you know what?
I totally get it.
I put it off for the longest time as well.
I think when you’re a rookie, the mere idea of getting your clothes tailored is just too foreign. You feel like you shouldn’t have to pay for this service, because you never had to before. You feel like you should be able to find good clothes off the rack, just like you’ve always done.
But then, maybe you should stop doing what you’ve always done, and start doing what works.
And what works is getting your clothes tailored.
Just try it with one shirt, and you’ll see how well it works with your own two eyes.
You’ll save yourself a lot of time and frustration.
Mistake 6: Buying Super-Fancy Designer Duds
Much like the rookies mentioned previously, many think buying fancy designer duds will solve all their issues. They think Versace, Armani or Hugo Boss clothes have magic powers too.
But again, it’s not about the clothes you wear, but about how you wear the clothes.
So a fancy brand won’t fix your style issues. You’re only making more expensive mistakes.
Clothing in your stage of learning style is practice material. You’re better off getting a lot of practice material for a low cost, than practice on a few super expensive items.
Besides, few people will realize you’re wearing brand clothing anyway. Unless you broadcast it, which makes you look like a show-off… and a moron… and everybody hates you.
Mistake 7: Cramming Instead of Doing
Some guys seem to think upping their style is like a big test they have to prepare for. They stay in research-mode for the longest time, leading to analysis paralysis.
What happens is, you want your style transformation to be perfect.
You want to avoid making a fool of yourself. So you go online to find advice, but you find so much of it. And you feel like you need to study it all before you start your transformation.
You feel like you need to know everything, before you change anything.
And without realizing it, you’re paralyzed.
You just keep reading and reading, but you never take any real action on what you read (save for the small, easily-implemented tweaks).
But learning style is all about developing your eye, and your eye is not developed from reading. Your eye is developed from seeing.
So instead of trying to learn everything, learn one thing, and implement it right away.
That’s all. Just one thing.
And then the next.
And then the next.
Mistake 8: Obsessing Over Details
Everybody says style’s all in the details.
And I disagree.
Style’s all about the big picture. Details can elevate a look, but they can’t make a look. If the big picture is off, the details won’t fix it.
You have to learn how to put an appealing outfit together, before worrying about details. Otherwise you’re just icing the cake before you bake it, which I’m almost sure is the wrong order.
So forget about the details.
Focus on the big picture.
Mistake 9: Thinking “Effortless” Means “No Effort Required”
So a look often advocated recently is the effortless look.
And many rookies use this effortless look as an excuse to keep dressing sloppily. They think they achieve this look by putting zero effort in.
But you don’t achieve the effortless look by looking like you just didn’t bother. You just want to look like you didn’t put a lot of thought into it — like you just grabbed whatever you had in your closet and put it on.
But you still want to look like you know what you’re doing. You still want your outfit to look good.
Just keep it simple. Don’t over-think it. But also don’t stop thinking entirely.
Mistake 10: Going For an Instant Transformation
Many rookies think they have to transform like Optimus Prime and overhaul their entire wardrobe overnight.
But they don’t.
In fact, I recommend against the instant transformation, for the following reasons:
- You’ll stay in preparation mode for too long (possibly forever).
- You’ll feel incongruent when you do transform.
- You’ll be freaked out by the attention.
So even if you do get out of preparation mode, you’ll likely transform back into your old, trusted look. You’ll tell yourself you tried it, but it just wasn’t you.
But when you take your time, change gradually, and learn along the way, the transformation will be a lot smoother, and a lot more comfortable.
So What’s a Rookie to Do?
Well, Rookie, to finally stop looking sloppy, you need to focus.
You need to focus on the right things.
You need to stop randomly reading anything the web throws your way, and focus on the basics, like fit, color-coordination and achieving balance in your outfits.
Effortless Gent has a Start Here page, don’t you know? As does my own site. The articles listed on these pages cover a ton of basic information, and just going through these will help you on your way.
Focus on the Basics
Nothing you do matters until you have a grip on style basics, dude.
No suit, no trend, no brand will look good until you do.
You need to forget about the what, and focus on the how. Because once you know the how, you’ll never have much trouble again. Once you know the how — once you’ve internalized the how, and developed your eye — everything else is easy.
All you have to do is forget everything you think you know, erase your bad habits, and take it one step at a time.
Just one tiny step at a time.
And before you know it, you realize you look pretty damn awesome.
Don’t forget to visit Robert’s site. He’ll get you started on your new style by personally helping you over your current sticking points.